Your wedding is supposed to be one of the happiest days of your life. Even so, being a bride-to-be is not always easy.
Planning your perfect day can be quite stressful. You’ll have to make many different decisions during a relatively short time span: choosing your location, venue, dress…
Apart from that, one of the things people often take as a given is the bride’s choice of shoewear. It probably feels like you’re limited to a single option: high heels.
So, do you really HAVE to wear them on your wedding day? Is there nothing else that seems appropriate for the occasion?
Here’s what we think about it.
If you usually don’t wear heels, there’s no need for you to start now
Not all women enjoy walking in heels. Some of us have never even tried! Why should we? They even look uncomfortable.
If any of these statements resonate with you, let’s be real: you probably don’t know how to walk in high heels. At least not very graciously. And honestly, there’s no shame in that – choosing not to break your neck for a pair of high heels doesn’t make you less of a bride (or a woman for that matter!).
To put it bluntly, if you’re not comfortable wearing them, don’t let anyone pressure you into doing so.
Now, on the other hand, if you’ve never worn heels before but you want to wear a pair for your wedding, there’s still time for you to learn. And we’re not saying that because we think walking in these is some sort of rocket science, but because we want you to be as comfortable as possible on your special day. With that being said, we recommend getting block heels as they tend to be the most „stable“.
You can find a good collection at Dream Pairs on https://dreampairshoes.com/collections/wedding-shoes, if you’re interested.
Don’t let anyone pressure you into doing something you dislike
We all have that one family member that likes to meddle in your business. So, when that person overhears you contemplating whether to wear heels at your wedding or not, they might try to pressure you into doing so, even if you’re not so sure about it. You might hear things like „it’s more traditional“ or „all brides wear heels“ – don’t let it phase you. This is your decision to make and it’s yours only, no matter who’s been trying to convince you otherwise. Even if that person is the groom himself, it shouldn’t affect your decision. Nobody should have a say in what you’re wearing but you!
Again, your wedding day is something special, so you shouldn’t let others (including societal norms) dictate your wardrobe.
You have a right to be a bit „self-absorbed“ and do what you really want on your special day! It happens only once in your life (for most people at least), so don’t allow yourself to have any regrets later on.
There are many elegant types of shoes you can wear instead of heels
Even though heels are considered to be the formal version of footwear for women, it doesn’t mean they’re the only elegant type of shoes ever invented. Kitten sandals, ballerina flats, and even loafers can suit your dress just fine (if you’re wearing a dress at all – there’s nothing wrong with wearing a suit either)!
So, if you think heels are the only acceptable type of footwear that a woman can wear at her wedding, think again! All you need to do is look around a bit more, and you’ll find something you’re comfortable in quite quickly.
If you’re purchasing your wedding shoes at a bridal store, don’t hesitate to ask them whether they have any flats that would compliment your dress. The bridal consultant probably won’t be very surprised, as this request is not uncommon at all nowadays!
You can always bring a change of shoes
Now, if you’re uncomfortable with wearing heels for the entirety of your wedding, but you’d still like to take a couple of pictures in them, you can always bring a pair of flats to replace them with. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with that – in fact, many brides decide to take this route. Weddings can be incredibly lengthy, and standing around in high heels is simply not very comfortable. Nobody will judge you for it, so if this sounds like a good compromise to you, don’t hesitate to do it during your special day.
Either way, as we’ve already mentioned before, if you’re only wearing heels because you feel you have to – it’s time to change that mindset, sister! Your wedding should be about you and whatever you want, not what others expect you to do. Don’t ever let anyone convince you otherwise.
Lastly, if heels don’t fit the theme of your wedding, that’s a good reason NOT to wear them
Let’s be real: people have all kinds of weddings nowadays. Some folks get married while scuba diving or bungee jumping, while others decide to incorporate their very specific interests into the dress code for their special day. Modern weddings are quite unique, and we live for that!
Now, if you’re hosting a heavily themed wedding, heels might not be practical enough or fit into the aesthetic – and that’s perfectly fine. As we’ve mentioned multiple times before, you don’t need to wear anything that you dislike on your wedding day. Do whatever you’re the most comfortable with – we’re certain you’ll shine either way!
The bottom line
All in all, while high heels have become a part of the „traditional“ bridal look, this doesn’t mean you have to wear them if you don’t want to. It all boils down to your specific needs and preferences.
So yes, even if you decided to wear sneakers or cowboy boots (you wouldn’t be the first bride to do so), we completely support your choice. We just know you’ll look absolutely gorgeous!
With that being said, we want to congratulate you on your engagement and we hope your special day goes exactly as you’ve dreamed it to be.